Author Archives: melissawiseheart

Envy

I was listening to another of Jay’s older podcast episodes last week (surprise, surprise), and he had Glennon Doyle on to talk about How to Stop Asking for Permission and Listening to Other People’s Opinions. I highly recommend this episode, especially if you are LGBTQIAP and are having a hard time with the idea ofContinue reading “Envy”

Motivation

I have always believed that encouragement is a better motivator than fear. It certainly is for me, anyway. In most of the jobs I have had, fear was used to “motivate” employees. One example comes to mind immediately. At one of my former workplaces, employees were sent an all-staff e-mail to let us know thatContinue reading “Motivation”

Competition

Today, I’d like to tell a story. This story has come up for me multiple times in the last month, and you know what that means. Time to share. A few years ago, when I was still working at the library, a management position became available. There had been one librarian who was the supervisorContinue reading “Competition”

Curation

I’ve been pretty busy last week and this week, preparing to take my life and health insurance licensing exam. I didn’t want to go too long without posting again, especially as I’ve had something in particular keep popping up for me lately. When that happens, I know it means that it’s a topic I needContinue reading “Curation”

Imposter

Until last fall, I worked in a public library for thirteen years. I started in circulation and ended up in the history and genealogy department. For the last few years, I was the only person in that department. I catalogued. I researched. I taught classes. I learned how to read maps and legal documents. YouContinue reading “Imposter”

Awakening

The last few years have been a time of complete change in my life. I’ve lost some friends and made some new ones. I changed jobs. I’m discovering my faith. I’m discovering myself. These haven’t been easy changes and I so often feel like I’m going crazy, yet it all feels right. In 2019, IContinue reading “Awakening”

Impetus

I talked before about finally being ready to change, and I thought I should talk about how that happened. That’s not to say it’s the same for everyone, but I think there are aspects of how that happened for me that might be universally true for everyone. I was at a very low place inContinue reading “Impetus”

Un-becoming

2020 and 2021 became a period of self-reflection for me, as it did for many of us. I wasn’t happy. I hadn’t been for a long time. People would say to me “just be happy” or “just be positive.” The thing about those types of statements is that they don’t tell you how. If IContinue reading “Un-becoming”

Weight Tracking

I’m now down to 230.8 pounds. This is a one pound loss from last week. It makes sense. My diet has been about the same. I’m getting close to finishing up the wheat products I have, so that should help. I am going to make a depression cake this week, just to try it. IContinue reading “Weight Tracking”