melissawiseheart

Feels

I wasn’t going to write this week. It’s been an unusual week. However, I seem to be becoming more emotional as time goes on. Not in an unstable sort of way. I just feel a lot. Both in terms of depth of emotion and frequency of occurrences. I suppose the correct way to say itContinue reading “Feels”

Mindfulness

I’ve been working to be more mindful. I’m not good at it, but I’m better than I was before and that’s something. I’m better at recognizing my emotions and not identifying with them. I’m better at focusing on my breathing. The biggest struggle for me has always been stopping negative thoughts and turning them intoContinue reading “Mindfulness”

Demisexual

In May of 2019, I learned that I’m demisexual. I told a few friends, but I really went public with that information at the very end of 2020. I hate to say I came out, because I’m heterosexual and cisgender, so I feel weird about using that phrase. Demisexual falls under the asexual umbrella, andContinue reading “Demisexual”

Purpose

As those of you who have been reading my posts know, I have been on a transformational journey lately. I’ve struggled my whole life to find my purpose. I had always equated purpose with occupation. I thought my purpose was to be an occupational therapist and I applied to a college with that program. WhenContinue reading “Purpose”

Grounded

Last night, I went to my dear friend Adam’s birthday party. One of the features of this party was free chakra readings by The Rooted Druid. I’d never heard of a chakra reading prior to this, so I decided to try it. I sat at the table and told the lady (whom I later learnedContinue reading “Grounded”

Flawsome

Flawsome: being awesome in spite of or because of flaws. Everyone and everything is flawed. Perfection is an illusion. It’s an ideal we strive for but can never attain. It sounds harsh to say that, but that’s actually a good thing. Flaws add uniqueness to our being and flavor to our lives. How boring itContinue reading “Flawsome”

Ghosted

I have ghosted. I’ve been ghosted. Increasingly, I’m seeing posts on social media about ghosting. Many of them end up with long chains of argument in the comments. I think that’s because “ghosting” can mean different things and be for different reasons. One person was upset about having been ghosted because they didn’t know whatContinue reading “Ghosted”

Forgiveness

Forgive and forget. That’s an expression I think we’ve all heard at some point. I’ve heard it so much that I subconsciously fused the two things. I thought that if I couldn’t forget something, I must not have actually forgiven the person. Sometimes, that’s true. Usually, it’s not. Memory is very different from action. MemoryContinue reading “Forgiveness”

Grass

“The grass is always greener on the other side.” We’ve all heard that one. The intent of this aphorism is to analogize comparing our own circumstances to those of others. I think that it’s a bit oversimplified and lacking some context, which means it can be easily misinterpreted (which is true of most aphorisms). IContinue reading “Grass”

Understood

When I applied for my current job, I was required to take the Predictive Index (PI) assessment along with submitting my résumé and completing an application. Honestly, this requirement is one of the reasons I wanted to apply. I’m constantly seeking knowledge and to better understand myself, so this was right up my alley. Plus,Continue reading “Understood”